Submitted Tuesday, May 6, 2014
Don’t be blinded by your first impressions.
When you actually know someone, you know what they stand for; what they fight for day by day, and you know why they decide to survive day by day. Just because you don’t like the crowd someone hangs with or the clothes that they wear, or even how they look, it doesn’t mean that they aren’t the kind of people who won’t shine or make a difference in life.
If you even take a second out of your day to say hello to one of these people, you may have just given him or her the recognition that they’ve longed for. Even sitting down and offering advice to a person you just met or having a meaningful conversation with a homeless person. All it takes is a single, simple conversation to change another person’s life.
Now the ability of speech is what some may think of as a gift from god, or an evolutionary trait of the human species. But there are two different ways to use this extraordinary talent. One way is to speak good of anything that comes to mind, the other is of a more abusive and negative nature that hurts and harms.
Now when you talk to someone generously in a mannerly fashion you tend to get the same mannerly response. But if you speak to someone in a rude, vulgar and insulting way you will receive either an unhappy tone or a reply that is just as crude as the one you initiated. The way you speak to another person defines your stance towards them—friend or foe.
What you talk about can also affect the way a person thinks. For example, if you call a person hideous, that person may consider him- or herself hideous. I see people insulting each other every day and they don’t think of the long-term damage it causes. Girls call each other fat and ugly every day, and they spend the rest of their lives thinking they are just that no matter what their loved ones say to them.
So remember, if your going to say something to someone, say something nice. It may just be the kickstart they need to be happy. You can change a person just by being nice to them or encouraging them to do the right thing.
I met Timothy when I started studying Chinese at National Chinese Overseas Senior High School, Taiwan. Timothy Jie was born in Durban, South Africa. He is currently an applied foreign languages student at National Taipei College of Business, Taiwan. Thanks for the piece, Tim. – John.